Gift-giving is stressful at any time of the year. You want to make sure you’re not giving a gift that says something you don’t intend about a woman, so you stress about getting her the right thing. Whether you’ve been together forever or just a few days (and just plan on being together for a few days), gift-giving is a necessary evil for even the shortest relationships. Not giving a gift when one is expected can be viewed as an intentional slight, either on the woman herself or on the relationship you’re trying to have with her.
Most men don’t know what to give women. That’s not just obvious, it’s apparent in just about everything from commercials to sitcoms to any piece of advice you’ve ever read. This is why you have to read reviews of online hookup sites instead of just trusting their advice blindly; sometimes you get lucky, but sometimes you fall flat on your face with terrible advice. We tend to revert to the basics we know about, because at least those won’t be offensive.
Unfortunately, sometimes those “obvious” gifts are even more likely to backfire. Sometimes, girls know that you’re just not trying very hard, and get offended by that. More frequently, they’re getting offended because you’ve accidentally given them some kind of insult with the “just-okay” gift you thought you were giving. We’ve put together a list of the worst common gifts that men give to women, in hopes that you’ll be able to figure out where you’re going wrong before you do.
Soap is an old standby in the vein of “bath and body products.” Every guy who’s ever been on a dating site, even those who have just read reviews of online hookup sites, knows that bath and body products are the safe thing to give a woman you don’t know very well. By that logic, soap should be a safe and easy gift. It comes in cute colors and a million packages, and is always bundled up nicely for the holidays and for gift-giving. There’s no way that could go wrong.
Unfortunately, soap isn’t the best choice to give a woman, especially a woman who’s usually taking good care of her own appearance. Even if she doesn’t say anything other than, “Thank you,” any woman you give soap to as a present is going to be thinking the same thing:
“Do you think I smell bad?”
Avoid this horrible trap. Even if she smells great and she knows she smells great, she’s going to be annoyed because you’ve given her something that she has to buy anyway. There’s nothing special or fun about soap. It’s soap.
There is a fine line when it comes to giving a woman a cute thing. This is very popular in other cultures, such as Japan, but if you’re going to give gifts based on what they do over there you might as well just get her a giant robot.
If your girl of choice is really into some specific cute thing-if she loves a certain animal, or a certain character-then go ahead and get her something like a plushie of that specific thing, or a little figurine. However, that doesn’t mean that she likes just every cute thing and toy. If you give her the wrong sort of little present, she can easily take that as a comment that she’s not mature in your eyes, or that you think she’s some kind of sexy little kid (which is NOT the impression you want to be sending a girl you want to sleep with).
Jewelry is something that can be a fantastic gift. This is something that can be an equally great gift for a one-night fling or for a girlfriend or even wife. However, it’s one of those things that you really have to know and understand in order to avoid giving the wrong impression along with whatever’s in the tiny box.
If you get her something with real stones in it, it means you’re in it for the long haul or you’re trying to pay her for sex. Those are your only two options, end of story. If you get her something cheap, it had better be the first date. If you get her a locket, that means you’re either her dirty little secret or you want to be with her forever. If you get her a kind of jewelry she doesn’t wear, you’re unobservant. If you get her a kind of jewelry she does wear, she’ll be annoyed that she already has it.
Jewelry, in other words, is the kind of thing that men who have been married to their wives for 60 years still struggle with. You definitely shouldn’t get it for a woman just because you saw reviews on online hookup sites that made you think it was a good idea. If you don’t want to risk sending a very incorrect impression, skip jewelry and give her something else.
Candy can be a very fun little gift for the woman in your life…but is probably not a good choice. Unlike with jewelry, you aren’t running the risk of over-buying-there’s not much candy floating around that’s “too expensive” or “too much of a commitment” for any woman. However, you do definitely run some other risks, and one of them is the opposite: Underbuying.
If you give a woman candy she’s seen in a store that has a pronounceable name, she’ll have seen it a thousand times before. In general, never give a woman anything that she routinely buys for herself. At best, you’d be saving her a quick errand. At worst, you’re telling her she’s cheap.
Gift cards are the traditional gift to get someone when you don’t know or care what they actually want. Let’s face it: you’re not going to want to spend a whole lot of money on a girl you’re only barely meeting and hooking up with. If that’s the case, you’re not going to be able to find her a very good card. If you are going to spend a lot of money on this card, you’re again either treating her like she’s a hooker or you’re telling her she’s just not worth the amount of time it takes to think up a gift.
Gift-giving is hard, and it’s harder around the holidays, though even birthdays can be stressful. However, there are a few gifts you can give that don’t fall into these traps. Potted (still-living) plants are great for women that love nature, gardening etc. These are fantastic for women that like flowers as well, and they last longer than cut flowers and are a better statement of intent. Another great gift is any funky jewelry you found on Etsy. Just package it up nicely and say that a little old lady in Indonesia put it together for you when you were there on a holiday. You don’t have to stress out too much. Of course, you can always go back to bad dating sites like JustHookup.com for your advice on dating and hooking up, but we wouldn’t recommend it. You should not fall for a hookup scam site. Read the Rating on JustHookup to See If It’s Legit First. Get online dating tips from a legit site.